22 May Swipe Right Resources for Further Study
Recently we concluded our Swipe Right teaching series. The entire series was focused on God, Singleness and Sex as we navigated cultural realities and a better way found in the scriptures. You can listen to and watch all the teachings here.
With the conclusion of the series we wanted to provide some resources that have inspired the series and that we hope can inspire you as well. We will do this after every teaching series to help you be able to dig deeper into the various subjects we taught on. The books and descriptions below are organized by the various topics we discussed.
Loveology by John Mark Comer
I really like lots of John Mark’s stuff as he lives and pastors in a similar cultural context to Seattle (he is in Portland) and he works with a similar demographic to our community (single 20-somethings). This is a really good starting place on a broad array of topics from; what is love? What is the purpose of marriage? Modern commentary on sex and romance as well as hot button issues like gender and gay marriage. This is where I would start for most folks (especially if you’re single).
Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman
One of the top books I would recommend on sex as it lays a foundation for sex as more than just physical (taking into factor spiritual and emotional intimacy) as well as taking lots of space to go into lots of practicals on the physical side of sex. There are also great sections for couples in pre-marital and engaged which Hilary & I love to give to our couples in pre-marital counseling with us!
Cheap Sex by Mark Regnerus
A cultural study of the economics of sex in our modern day. If you want to understand how our society has changed in its views of sex, marriage and monogamy then read this book. It also hits on the central of technology (better contraceptives) have changed the market on sex and marital commitment.
Healthy Marriages & Families
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
A call to live more for holiness than happiness in marriages. Thomas does a good job of drawing from church history in a applicable and culturally relevant way. I appreciated this work as it went after how the sole pursuit of happiness (above all else) has left so many unhappy and how the biblical model of holiness will lead to happiness.
You and Me Forever by Francis & Lisa Chan
A challenging and convicting book about an eternal perspective on marriage. A bit different angle on traditional marriage books which I appreciated and an all out call for our marriages to live for something greater.
Singled Out by Christine Colon and Bonnie Field
A good exposition of the cultural as well as church views of celibacy and singleness as well as a way forward for singleness in the Church.
Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson
A solid study on neuroscience, addiction and how pornography is fundamentally rewiring our brains.
Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker
A solid biblical perspective on how to fight well against the struggle of lust and pornography.
Washing and Waiting by Wesley Hill
This is an incredibly well-written book. Hill’s is a great writer apart from the topic itself. The book is rich in personal experience (as Hill speaks from the perspective of a gay man), biblical exposition and historical examples. The biggest part I enjoyed was that he made homosexuality not just a “them” issue (speaking from my perspective as a straight man) but as an “us” issue of us struggle with faithfulness to the biblical picture of marriage and our own desires.
What Does the Bible Teach about Homosexuality by Kevin DeYoung
A short and concise book on a scriptural view of marriage and homosexuality. DeYoung mostly keeps to the scriptures and is writing the book in a concise way. Doesn’t speak as much to the emotional or cultural dynamics at play.
Understanding Gender Dysphoria by Mark Yarhouse
A helpful, biblical, pastoral perspective on how to navigate our cultural moment as gender is being rapidly deconstructed. Good insights on how we are to helpful people struggling with gender dysphoria from an individual and institutional (church) level.
Why Gender Matters by Leonard Sax
A scientific study on the biological truths of gender differences. This is helpful in our day where gender is being socially deconstructed as it points us to the inherent biological realities and the differences between men and women.
First Corinthians by Richard B. Hays
This is a good starting place for a study through 1 Corinthians. A popular commentary on 1 Corinthians that is more so geared towards teaching, preaching and relevance to modern life.
The First Epistle to the Corinthians by Gordon D. Fee
An academic level commentary on 1 Corinthians. Really good for deeper study on specific issues.